Work Life
Q: What was your first job A: My first job was as a student nurse, because then, you work and go to school. There were periods allotted for going to school and periods allotted for going to wards. You're put in different wards you go six to six weeks round all the wards. We were being paid so we have to go to work. Normally, I didn't want to be a nurse from the start. It was the choice of my father, because his cousin was also a nurse. He used to say, “I love the way they dress immaculately, they're very smart, they walk smartly, they attend to people smartly, so I want my children to be nurses.” We were three nurses in my father's children and one Public Health officer. Many times,
I will run from the school, he will chase me back to the school. I didn't want to be a nurse because at that time, I had an admission for Pharmacy I had an admission for Education. I was thinking I would go for those ones, instead of Nursing. I'm not regretting it. Actually, I enjoyed it because, you're able to quickly recognise what is going on in your children and you quickly attend to it, and even members of your family.
Q: What was it like getting your first salary pay cheque A: That time, I was going to be sixteen, so I don't even know what a salary was. My father opened an account and the money was put in there. Whenever I needed anything, I ask him and he gives me. Later, he gave me a passbook for my salary, and that's where he had been keeping all my salary. He bought land for me to build. It was then I knew that he was not even touching the money. Immediately they pay me, I give him.
Q: Did you have a mentor in your early days at work A: There is no way you will not have some people that will help you when you are in a workplace. There was somebody, when I was in the School of Nursing, Dr Abioye. Dr Abioye's method is different. When you're late, you will just meet a paper on your table, 'Madam, you are late, please try to make amends and come early from today on.' He will not quarrel with you, he will not speak with you, it's just the paper. Everybody used to be scared of him because of the records he keeps. It was later I found out that the man meant nothing, than for you to just improv
Q: What is your current or your last job A: After I retired, I was given a sort of contract, to be lecturing in the School of Nursing, Obangede and I was given an offer as a Facilitator in Open University. I was doing that till 2015, before the children told me to stop. Now, I just sit at home, at times, I go out to give some lectures in the church. I belong to the Health Committee in the church. We give some lectures, free medical approach care, medical checkup and so on for the people in the church, after Mass in the morning, on Saturday or other days. That is what I'm doing now (laughs).
Q: How do your balance your work and your life
A: I do bulk buying. I cook and put it in the deep freezer, in bits. At times, we are involved with World Bank issues, the World Bank team. That required me to come home late, since I have to wait behind as the head of the department. I make sure I stock the house with foods. Sometimes, I make some chin-chin and buy biscuits, so that when the children come from school, unable to warm food themselves, before I get home, they eat the snacks and take some juice
Q: How do you manage stress A: I don't joke with medical check-up. I go often. I don't put things too much to heart. I believe that whatever will be, will be. I don't get myself stressed up. Once I feel like sleeping, I sleep. Once I know I'm getting to a breaking point, I surrender and leave.
Leisure
Q: What are your hobbies A: I love reading. I love my privacy. I love researching. I like dancing too, to any type of music
Q: What is your ideal vacation
A: I go to Port Harcourt to relax with my grandchildren and also London to have good time with my son, only daughter and my grandchildren there too.
Q: Your favorite food, dessert and Snack
A: Beans and fish. I eat salad once in a while. As a teenager and when I got married, I love ice-cream, but now I don't like it anymore. Any type of fruit is my snack. I don't like flour
Q: How about when you were young, have they changed a lot A: Yes, I could remember we compete and run about. The only thing that has changed is, now, I look at these things and say, 'Is this not silly?' You run around, getting money, doing this and that, working, selling, stressing yourself, over nothing. At the end, you just sit and look. Now, my idea has changed towards taking things easy, just as they come. Live life, feels free and feel happy. At times, go through some funny things, look at them and laugh. You may even be the only one, just laugh. You'd find out that everyone struggling to have everything will eventually leave the money behind in the world. I don't get myself involved in struggling.
Q: Your favorite place in the world outside Nigeria
A: I love UK. I was there about three times for training when I was still working, but home is home my dear (laughs). Anytime, I'm there, after two or three weeks, I will start feeling like seeing a corner in my room. My vacation, if I want to enjoy it, should not be more than two weeks. Once it's getting to two, three, four weeks, I will get bored, I will want to come back home, because I love being at home.
Family
Q: How did you meet your Spouse
A: It was at the University of Ibadan. We were on Orientation Week, during which they bring cinema and so on. I was on my way to the cinema. We just got to the university that time most of us didn't know our way around. I was looking for where the cinema is and that was how we met. He asked, 'What are you looking for?' I thought he was a fresher, I told him we're in Orientation period and we want to go and watch the cinema. He then said, 'Let's go together, I know the place'. He was walking slowly, and then, I told him I don't want to be late. He said they'll use African time. I said there's nothing like African time, time is time. He started arguing with me. That was we argued, clicked, moved on and got married.
Q: How many children do you have A: Three
Q: Did you want more
A: (Laughs) Only grandchildren.
Q: Did any of them follow in your footsteps, career wise A: One did. The only that worked in the hospital did Medicine and he's a Consultant in UK.
Q: How does that make you feel
A: I feel the joy. No matter the work you're doing, just serve humanity. Serve from your heart. Do what you can do to help humanity.
Q: What do you think of people that force their children to do what they want A: That is, if it possible. You may force a child to do something, for example, my father said I must be a nurse, after being a nurse, I moved out, but not moving out totally. What I did was Health Research in Evaluation.
Life
Q: What is your favorite time of the day A: It depends on what I have at hand to do.
Q: What experiences have you had in your life that you’d say have shaped you to be the person you are today A: Ah! The first one is when I had my first child. It was a very prolonged labour. Finally, when the baby came out, amidst preparation for C-section, I just took a deep breath. That was one of the greatest experiences. The other one was when, after writing series of letters and proposals since we just got to Kogi, and there was no office, we were always sitting under the tree, we got the first pay cheque from World Bank and we were able to move into our own offices. I was so happy.
Q: What one thing do wish you could go back in time and do all over again A: I don't think there's anything like that. I have no regrets. Whatever comes, I take it as the will of God.
Q: What are the best qualities you look for in people
A: Honesty and faithfulness
Q: How is your relationship with God A: It's been God giving me the grace. I have no power of my own. I always pray to God not to allow me go astray, to always bring me to Him. I commit everything into the hands of God, to the extent that, (To the interviewer: I want you to laugh) anytime, we write proposal, asking for money, loan or grant for the state, after writing and typing the letter, I type myself because I'm computer literate, I will carry the letter to the church and put in front of the Blessed Sacrament, that God should approve it. Most times, all these things go on smoothly. When I left the ministry, they kept coming to ask how I was doing it, that, nothing is forthcoming. I tell them to go and pray.
Q: If you could pick 3 people to have a conversation with either living or dead, who would they be A: My dad, because we were so close. When growing, if I ask him for anything, he gives me without questioning. Then, my classmates, in the School of Nursing. Anytime, I want to speak with them, I just pick my phone and call.
Q: What are your 3 greatest achievements thus far A: I prefer to say those things given by God (smiles).